Dear Miss Velvet, Like so many others, this pandemic is causing me bouts of emotional turmoil.  Between sustained unemployment and financial instability, home responsibilities, PE relationship expectations, and community involvement, I’m having a difficult time processing all the “things” that are expected of me.  How do I regroup in order to be a better leader, […]

Dear Miss Velvet, I am having difficulty getting my sub into subspace. A history of parental abuse means impact doesn’t do much for him, so I tend to avoid it. Wax play takes him to the brink, but I can’t seem to get him over the edge, and it’s driving me nuts!  Any thoughts on […]

Dear Miss Velvet, I am a cis-het woman in a relationship with a man for about a year.  Our sex life has never been ideal, but of late, it has been pretty much nonexistent.  A friend of mine recently happened upon my partner’s secret account on Fet.  When I asked about it, he told me […]