Dear Miss Velvet, Are doms allowed to use safe words?  I am the Dom in my relationship. The other day my partner and I were playing, and she started to get really bratty and do things that she knows I don’t like and am not comfortable with. I was taken aback, as that is not […]

Dear Miss Velvet, My partner and I met online through a power exchange forum.  We slowly developed an online dynamic, which eventually morphed into a satisfying real-life 24/7 dynamic in which we blended our families and our lives.  Over the past few years as “life happened,” we put our dynamic on hold while we raised […]

Dear Miss Velvet, I have met someone.  We are considering a very long term dynamic and commitment.  Nearly everything comes together very well. We share kinks. Hobbies. Sex Drive. We have talked about our values; and, for the most part, differences are not too severe. But there is one huge, major difference where our values […]

Dear Miss Velvet, I’m (24F) interested in attending a fetish event for the first time but I don’t think I want to participate in any play. Is watching (with permission) a thing that people do? Signed, Apprehensive Newbie Dear Newbie, How exciting you are taking a step forward into a brave new world!  It is […]

Dear Miss Velvet, So my partner and I engage in CNC quite often and both really enjoy it. It’s not always a full out scene but a lot of the time he will tell me things like”‘just take it” or “you can’t stop me” while I’m somewhat trying to resist or tell him no. There […]

Dear Miss Velvet, Can you explain Leather to me? Sincerely, Confused Dear Confused, Leather is a lifestyle that emerged in the years following World War II.  Common understanding asserts that men who had discovered forbidden love with their fellow soldiers longed to recreate that society upon returning home, and so they formed mens’ motorcycle clubs […]

Dear Miss Velvet, I found someone on Fet that I’ve known for years but lost touch with about 2 years ago.  We have always had chemistry, and her list of kinks is exactly up my alley.  Should I proceed to let her know I found her?  How would I even let her know without creeping […]

Dear Miss Velvet, I have been in a Daddy/girl relationship for a while, which has not included BDSM, though he has been into it most of his life.  I am new to the whole idea, and I recently told him I would like to try including some of that in our sex life.  Not long […]

Dear Miss Velvet, My submissive wife and I have been exploring and having fun with BDSM.  One thing that she wants is for me to continue to stimulate her after she has orgasm, almost like forcing her to have multiple orgasms while pushing the boundaries of that extra sensitivity.  We both enjoy playing this way, […]

Dear Miss Velvet, I’m currently in a great D/s relationship with my partner, and it’s been a definite learning experience. We have gotten to know each other and ourselves, in terms of what each of us likes; however, I struggle to remain dominant while getting fucked. All is good until the moment of insertion, after […]