We live in a society that prides itself on the foundational principles of liberty and justice for all, with the idea that we were all created equal. But those of us who challenge societal norms are left out in the cold, robbed of human dignities. I believe the essence of true citizenship lies not merely […]
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Head Space Do you recognize when you’re in a headspace? Is there really Top/sub-space? What is “Drop?” Headspace is unique and personal as a person’s laugh; we each experience it differently. Subspace might feel like being spellbound by sensations to one person, floating on waves of ecstasy for another, falling into a trancelike state for
Feeling Safe Why do I feel safest when I am dominated? This can be a complicated question for many, the answer to which can be found in when you seek out that comfort. Do you seek it out when you feel threatened? Those who feel powerless in their world sometimes seek out someone they see
Control I can’t give up my control, it feels like ANYTHING could go wrong and I couldn’t stop it. You’ve done your homework, you’ve vetted your person, you’ve negotiated in good faith, and you’ve established your boundaries and safewords. So…what’s the worst that could happen? Seriously. Focus on what your fear really is and challenge
Bondage Why do people like to be tied up and bound? Bondage is a very personal thing, but many people who enjoy being bound report some common themes. Some find great comfort in the pressure of the restraints, almost as if they were a comfortable hug or a tightly wrapped blanket. For those who enjoy
Some friends did a demo for Primal Night at a local dungeon last night. Though it is something that seems to have grown in popularity of late, it is truthfully not one I’ve really paid a lot of attention to. You know that BDSM test everyone takes at some point? I might have scored above
When the clock chimes midnight on January 1, a new year will be born, offering hope for new beginnings and the impetus to make changes. So often our New Year’s resolutions center around our perceived shortcomings – losing weight, quitting smoking, etc. – that we begin the year already unhappy with where we are. What
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