Dear Miss Velvet, I’m having a poly, jealousy, D/s issue I need some help with. I have a friend from the swinging world with whom I hang out from time to time; he is also familiar with some of the protocols particular to the BDSM world. On a couple of occasions, I have taken each […]
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Dear Miss Velvet, I like to play hard. When things feel out of my control, I like to choose to give up control. Recently, I had to end a relationship, which caused me a lot of emotional pain. Since then, in a scene with my longtime boyfriend, I found I wanted more physical pain than
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Dear Miss Velvet, I am a relatively new Master with a slave of two years. I have always guided them with a loose rein, as I feel they are a capable person with good judgment. In the last few months, they have begun a relationship with a person who is high-spirited, attractive, reactive, and who
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Dear Miss Velvet, I recently started a new power exchange relationship with my Ma’am. Our connection is very deep and I feel lucky to belong to her. Though we are both involved in our community, I have more experience from previous power exchange relationships than she does (though this is my first time being on
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Dear Miss Velvet, Like so many others, this pandemic is causing me bouts of emotional turmoil. Between sustained unemployment and financial instability, home responsibilities, PE relationship expectations, and community involvement, I’m having a difficult time processing all the “things” that are expected of me. How do I regroup in order to be a better leader,
Dear Miss Velvet, I am having difficulty getting my sub into subspace. A history of parental abuse means impact doesn’t do much for him, so I tend to avoid it. Wax play takes him to the brink, but I can’t seem to get him over the edge, and it’s driving me nuts! Any thoughts on
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Dear Miss Velvet, I am a cis-het woman in a relationship with a man for about a year. Our sex life has never been ideal, but of late, it has been pretty much nonexistent. A friend of mine recently happened upon my partner’s secret account on Fet. When I asked about it, he told me
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