Dear Miss Velvet, Do you have a moment to help me unravel some poly drama? I currently have a primary and secondary partner. There’s no drama there thankfully. However, recent circumstances have connected me with someone who I might be interested in. Thankfully my primary partner has been encouraging of me pursuing this person. […]
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Dear Miss Velvet, My wife and I have been together for 4 years, and in the past 8 months or so, we have been exploring kink together. I am really unsure of where my kinks lie, but it is quite clear that she loves pain. I have been slowly working up to finding her pain
Dear Miss Velvet, With covid still a concern, I am hesitant to go to live lifestyle events. What is the best way to stay connected to the community? I miss it so much! Sincerely, Disconnected by Covid Dear Disconnected, If you can find some small gatherings where you are comfortable wearing a mask and washing
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Dear Miss Velvet, I’ve been interested in BDSM for years but have little real life experience. After ending a long-term relationship that included mostly mainstream kink activities like hair-pulling, ass-slapping, pet names, that sort of thing, I find myself wanting to explore different types of pain and implements, levels of pain, day to day D/s
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Dear Miss Velvet, I have two submissives in negotiated dynamics with whom I spend most of my time. They call me Lord. I also enjoy more casual play, and I have a few play partners who bottom for me from time to time. We all spend time together occasionally, and a couple of my bottoms
Dear Miss Velvet, Whenever I find myself around kinky people of all ilk, I have noticed that I hear a lot of talk about ideals like acting with integrity and being humble. However, when I watch what people do instead of believing what they say, I see them gossiping about other people in the community.
Dear Miss Velvet, Like lots of kinky folks I love to go play parties. Sometimes I have a scene and partner in mind, but sometimes I show up just looking to see what develops. Most of the time, that leads to a pleasant evening of flirting, talking with acquaintances, and meeting new folks for next
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Dear Miss Velvet, Do you have a moment to help me unravel some poly drama? I currently have a primary and secondary partner. There’s no drama there thankfully. However, recent circumstances have connected me with someone who I might be interested in. Thankfully my primary partner has been encouraging of me pursuing this person.
Dear Miss Velvet, I am a cisgender dominant woman in a year-long power exchange relationship with a very willing, joyful slave whom I adore. Our values are well-matched, as are our kink interests, but I am running into a bit of a problem. About 6 months ago, I introduced a strap-on into our play. It
Dear Miss Velvet, I love attending classes. I like to learn and I love learning more about myself and my role(s) in BDSM. I have been in a dynamic for about a month now, and everything has been great except for one confusing aspect. My Sir/Master/Papa Bear says he wants me to take classes and