Dear Miss Velvet

Class Confusion

Dear Miss Velvet, I love attending classes. I like to learn and I love learning more about myself and my role(s) in BDSM. I have been in a dynamic for about a month now, and everything has been great except for one confusing aspect.  My Sir/Master/Papa Bear says he wants me to take classes and […]

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Head Space

Head Space Do you recognize when you’re in a headspace? Is there really Top/sub-space? What is “Drop?” Headspace is unique and personal as a person’s laugh; we each experience it differently.  Subspace might feel like being spellbound by sensations to one person, floating on waves of ecstasy for another, falling into a trancelike state for

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Control

Control I can’t give up my control, it feels like ANYTHING could go wrong and I couldn’t stop it. You’ve done your homework, you’ve vetted your person, you’ve negotiated in good faith, and you’ve established your boundaries and safewords.  So…what’s the worst that could happen?  Seriously.  Focus on what your fear really is and challenge

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